What is it that every man wants and needs from a woman? Today, the great majority of opinion is that marital problems are sexually motivated. But I have found that usually sexual compatibility is not the real problem in marriage. Sex is simply the battleground. The real problem goes much deeper. Do not misunderstand me. Sexual relationships in marriage should be highly valued. EVERY MAN NEEDS FOR HIS WIFE TO BE HIS LOVER, REALLY HIS LOVER. The more passionate she is, the better. You ladies ought never to be prudish and cold with your husbands. The Word of God gives very plain instruction in this matter. The Apostle Paul tells us, "Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled" (Heb. 13:4). "Let the husband render unto the wife her due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto her husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power over his own body, but the wife" (I Cor. 7:3-4). He admonished the aged women to teach the younger women "to love their husbands" (Tit. 2:4). If you would be a good wife, learn to please your husband well in making love to him.

But men want and need much more in a wife than a good sexual companion. EVERY MAN NEEDS AND WANTS HIS WIFE'S REVERENCE. A wife should reverence her husband and be in submission to him in all things. The Word of God requires a woman to do so; and it is impossible to build a happy home until this reverence and submission is given by the wife toward her husband. Ladies, speak well of your husbands. Praise them, encourage them, and honor them with your speech. Don't ever belittle him, either in private or in public. Don't even do it in jest. If you will show reverence toward your husband, both in your speech and in your submissive obedience to his desires, it is very likely that you will receive the love and tenderness you desire from him. I have never yet seen a woman who reverenced her husband and was in subjection to him fail to have a happy home. EVERY MAN ALSO NEEDS FOR HIS WIFE TO BE A FAITHFUL HOUSEWIFE. I do not say that a woman should not work outside the home, or that you should have no outside interests. But the Word of God does teach that the primary, principle sphere of a wife's responsibility is in her home. Nothing pleases a man more than for his wife to keep a neat, clean home, spend some time preparing a good meal, and put forth some effort in preparing special treats for him. If you want your husband to come home at night, give him a reason to do so. Spend your days making your home, and he may spend more of his evenings with you in it. And EVERY MAN ALSO WANTS AND NEEDS FOR HIS WIFE TO BE CONTENT. A loving husband will give or do most anything within his ability to make his wife happy. But, ladies, learn to be content with what he is able to give and do. Don't ever nag him about what you do not have, or what you wish you had. And don't ever compare him with other men. Learn to enjoy that which God has given you. Be industrious and thrifty, and your husband will love you for it. If you will learn to live within your means, so that your husband doesn’t have to work just to pay the creditors, it will make life much happier and more pleasant for both you and your husband. Do you want to build a happy home? Perhaps if you will follow these simple guidelines, you can do so. If you are a good wife, it is very likely that you will have a good husband.




Don Fortner, Pastor

Grace Baptist Church of Danville -- Danville, Kentucky 40422.