"Good Manners"
I Corinthians 15:33
If I may be allowed to stretch the use of
Paul's words to apply them in a very practical way to our daily lives, I would
like for all who read this article to consider this question for a minute or
two - What ever happened to good manners? Almost everyone you meet these days
seems to be terribly rude and self-centered. Gone are the days when children do
what they are told, sit quietly in the presence of adults, speak only when they
are spoken to, or when they may do so without interrupting conversation, and
address their superiors (Yes, I did say "SUPERIORS".) respectfully
with words like, "Sir," "Maam," "Please," Thank
you," etc. But I do not blame the children. It is a generation of
thoughtless, self-centered, rude adults that raises a generation of
thoughtless, self-centered, rude children. Each generation ought to teach the
next, both by word and example, good manners. Above all other people, believers
ought to be a people of good manners. Here are three areas that need attention.
RESPECT others. Particularly respect
should be shown to any who are superior to us in age or office. We should think
of them, speak of them, and speak to them with the respect their position
deserves.
FRIENDLINESS is a trait that everyone
appreciates. It costs nothing to smile,speak
pleasantly,and communicate warmth to people.I cannot imagine meeting my family
and parting company without speaking pleasantly to each member. Yet, many
attend the house of God with people for weeks and months without speaking to
them!We need to work on this. Friendliness begets
friendliness.
COURTESY is woefully lacking even among
God's saints. That is shameful! I cannot imagine being ministered to by anyone,
in anyway, either carnally or spiritually,without
saying, "Thank you," and expressing it in such a way that the person
I am addressing knows I mean it. After twenty-five years of marriage, I would
not think of eating a dinner prepared by my wife and giving her the insult of
leaving the table without saying, "Thank you," even if she
accidentally prepared something I did not like. Yet, I see people all the time
who are ministered to by others who never express a word of gratitude. To
receive any service done for me or for anyone I care about without an
expression of sincere gratitude is insulting rudeness.
Don Fortner